I have tried therapy – but it didn’t help me.
I have seen this written – that people have tried therapy and it wasn’t for them. I also speak to clients who have had counselling in the past, and when I talk about it with them, they have described how it didn’t necessarily help them or meet their needs.
Counselling isn’t a one size fits all sort of experience. There are many different ways of counselling, known as Counselling Approaches and each Counsellor will work in a very unique way. When you are given a Counsellor to work with (for example with the NHS or other funded counselling) your experience of it can be varied, depending on whether the Counsellor you are given is a good fit for you.
If you are able to afford private counselling, it is important to take your time to choose the right Counsellor for you. It is worth reading through a few Counsellor profiles on a listing such as Counselling Directory or BACP Find a Therapist, as well as looking at Counsellor websites. This can give you an idea about the counsellor generally and they also might write something which really resonates with your own personal situation.
Many Counsellors offer a free phone conversation and /or an initial no-obligation session. I offer both of these options as I believe in the importance of me being the “right fit” for you and your needs. This gives you the freedom to identify what is best for you.
Even if your Counsellor hasn’t offered this, it is important that if the counselling isn’t helping you, you make the choice to end the counselling and find someone more suitable.
Another thing I do is regularly check- in with clients about how they are finding the counselling and whether it is benefitting them. This ensures that we keep on track with your aims or goals .
It is my belief, that with a Counsellor, who is suitable for you, therapy can really enable you to work through things on your mind, find new ways of coping, process situations and experiences and find hope and healing to bring an enhanced quality to your wellbeing.